Today at school it's "Bend the rules day." The kids all paid $1 per rule or $5 to bend all 6 rules. They are things like: wear a hat to school, go out to recess early, chew gum, sit in the teachers chair for 10 minutes etc. An interesting way for the PTA to raise money.
Anyway, today as we sent our 8 year old out the door to school with a hat on. He says "Mom, I don't think I can wear this hat because I need to put my hood on at recess so the bullies can't get me as easy." UGH -- no mother wants to hear that their child has to take extra precautions to make sure they don't get bullied.
I remember being teased in 2nd grade because I was late to school due to the loss of my shoe ( I still remember finding it behind a door downstairs.) These two boys called me shoe loser all recess. Can you tell what an impression those mean boys made on me? Then in
7th grade I remember a boy calling me "thunder thighs." Once again, the impression is still there. GOSH, I can't imagine fighting the bully battle more often than that. I think our cute son gets bullied more than we realize. He thinks it's just part of life. Teasing is part of life, being pulled around and "beat up on" at recess shouldn't be. Maybe he doesn't know the difference -- but it's been an eye opener for me.
Have any of you seen "Martian Child" where John Cusack is watching his child at recess from the car with binoculars? I related all to well. I've found a tree or two to hide behind just to make sure he's safe.
For those of you who think I am over protective, our 8 year old has Aspergers Syndrome....he struggles socially as well as with other things. Our 6 year old can go fight his battles all he wants without me and our 4 year old definitely causes her own problems.:)
Remember how I said "I wonder if I should have been hired as a Mom?" These are the moments that make me wonder!
- Do your children get bullied?
- Did you get bullied when you were young?
- Do you ever stop worrying about your children?
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Next time I hear Garrett getting beat up, Ellie and I will hunt those kids down and give them a talkin' (unless Libbie beats us to it).......NOBODY should have to go through that!
I love the idea for bending the rules. We can't wear hats at school and as you know and we are a "HAT FAMILY!"
My 3rd grader Kali has been having the hardest year because of mean girls. She's my sensitive one and it's so hard to give her advice on how to deal with them. I almost told her that maybe next year she won't have mean girls in her class, but then I thought, that's just a lie because we have to deal with mean people our entire lives. I told her to just punch one girl in the nose (she would never do it) :)
I felt really blessed today. I stopped in Seagull Book & tape and "happened" upon a book titled "Beating the bully." It's about an eight year old boy who keeps getting bullied, he almost turns into a bully himself(very common) and finally decides that's not worth it. I am so excited to read it to Garrett. :)
Glad to see your newest blog post. Our thoughts and prayers are with Garrett. At least he's not getting bullied by his own family and that happens way more than we realize and in so many different ways. I've had kids in high school who didn't ever want to go home though they were bullied at school as well. Garrett will adjust and learn. He is a great young man and we love him to pieces, and you too.
I read this the other day, and held of posting b/c I wasn't sure what to say. I love the Bear so much. At Megan's b-day party I was listening to the girls talk---kids can really say some mean things. I one thing we can do is be good examples. Teach them and love them. ~ Aunt Rene
Thanks! Good thing is...it started us talking about bullying again -- he says he hasn't been bullied in a while. Keeping his hood on is just a precautionary measure.:) He is learning how to play girls chase boys and vice versa.:) Gotta love the social world of a 2nd grader!:)
As for Megan's age and mean comments -- I don't even want my daughter to be 10 MUCH less 15!!!:)
BTW Rene --- having Megan and Maddie at school has been a HUGE blessing for Garret! THANKS!!!
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